Category Archives: Family of Origin 101

Understanding Yourself, Your Conflicts With Others, Your Family Of Origin

Families Are Strange Creatures: Spoken and Unspoken Rules

“Each family member develops a unique personality, but not in a vacuum.  Your personality developed in relation and response to other personalities in your family.  And all of their personalities developed and changed in response to your family.  Every member of a family, whether it’s mother in the … Continue reading

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Who Are The Three People You Most Want To Fix/Change? (Family of Origin 101)

Who are the three people you most want to fix/change? 1_______________ 2_______________ 3_______________ Good luck! How has fixing people worked for you in the past? Many people, maybe even most people, become even more entrenched when they sense others are … Continue reading

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Be Curious About Why You Are The Way You Are

The Curiosity Rover has landed on Mars.  We are going to discover some amazing new facts about our sister planet. The mission has four scientific goals: Determine whether Mars could ever have supported life — including the role of water, study the climate and geology of … Continue reading

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Over-functioning: Family of Origin 101

Do you ever feel like the weight of the world is on your shoulders?  Any chance you got some of Atlas’ genes, the Greek mythological figure who carried the Earth on his shoulders? “Atlas sided with the Titans in their … Continue reading

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Family of Origin 101: Your Family’s Chronology

Look at the chronology of your family.  Pick out significant events and determine what impact they had on the family system.  What changes occurred in the triangle system when there was a loss or an addition to the family? [Note:  … Continue reading

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Family of Origin 101: Pursuers and Distancers

One of the ways God may be forming you into a new person is by increasing your curiosity about your family of origin.  It helps if your curiosity is matched up with a therapist.  You don’t have to be in … Continue reading

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Family of Origin 101

There’s nothing like therapy, self-awareness and doing a family genogram to help with issues that are bothering you.  Even if you life is great (it will not always be great) there’s no better time than the present to do therapy … Continue reading

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Family Of Origin 101: How Does Your Family of Origin Deal With Differences/Conflicts?

Both sides of my family, maternal and paternal sides, have not dealt with differences well.  My paternal side, in particular, has cut off from each other, going years without speaking to one another.  How well does your family of origin … Continue reading

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Family of Origin 101 exercise

Imagine you are sitting in your parents’ living room.  You and your same sex parent are having a conversation.  Then your opposite sex parent comes in and sits down with the two of you.  What would happen to your conversation?  … Continue reading

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Family of Origin 101: Who Is The Sick (Black sheep) Person In Your Family?

Who is the “identified patent,” or who are the “identified patients,” in your family of origin/extended family?  The identified patient family member is seen as the “sick one.”  Who does your family focus on? Who is the black sheep in … Continue reading

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